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PRIVILEGE OF BEING A HELPMEET

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"Rachel, I love you. You're so beautiful." These were words regularly spoken by Brother Crawford to his one-flesh wife and were among some of the final words spoken by him to her shortly before going on to be with the LORD. After more than half a century of marriage, this team left, for those who knew them, a picture of Christ's relationship to the church, whether it was in their home filled with love and service to one another and those of us privileged to visit, from the pulpit as pastor and wife or with the many people to whom they ministered. When you were in the presence of this one-flesh team, there was never any question that the LORD was first in their lives followed by an uncompromising love which Robert and Rachel shared with one another. As Pastor Crawford wrote: "How we have served the LORD together as a team and stayed together is based upon a real faith in the LORD Jesus Christ and His marvelous grace."

TRANSFERRING THE PAGES OF GOD'S WORD INTO OUR LIVES

Transferring the pages of God's Word from the Bible into our lives is difficult for many. We often complicate the simplicity of the gospel with dictionary definitions, a perusal of the Hebrew and Greek, and research into what man has written. "But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ." (II Corinthians 11:3) "... hath not God made foolish the wisdom of this world?" (I Corinthians 1:20) Perhaps, it is this simplicity that often gets us off track from focusing on the Word for application of principles for living.

 There is rampant crime and a wave of destruction resulting from the breakup of families. This stems from two basic areas of instruction in which most of us have lacked either biblical instruction and/or knowledge or wisdom in the application of godly principles. This includes the relationship God has designed between a one-flesh husband and wife and His guidelines for the rearing of children. In our teachings, we share with our readers principles from God's Word dealing with topics which are often taken out of context, or many times not even considered by husbands and wives and the extension of these into the lives of their children. God established from the beginning that Adam needed a help meet - ONE person to aid him, help him, protect him and that person would be his wife. The same word used for help (in help meet) is that used repeatedly to describe God's help for others.

How a wife can and should help her husband  The husband's need for wisdom in receiving and finding help from his wife.

Likewise when husbands and wives first make the decision to submit one to another in the fear of God, their rudder is set to be, in the flesh, the picture that Christ expects of those who partake in His holy institution, marriage. It won't be marred by disrespect, unkind words or selfish actions. This is an outgrowth of knowing God who is love. His attributes are described through the word charity: 

	charity suffereth long
	is kind,
	envieth not,
	vaunteth not itself,
	is not puffed up,
	does not behave itself unseemly,
	seeketh not her own,
	is not easily provoked,
	thinketh no evil,
	rejoiceth not in iniquity, but in truth,
	beareth all things,
	believeth all things,
	hopeth all things,
	endureth all things

Charity NEVER fails because it is Who God is! (I Corinthians 13:4-8)
 
Job knew God. Never was there a question of Job's loyalty to his wife: "I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?" (Job 31:1) Never was there any question about the submission, positionally, of Jesus Christ to God the Father, nor about the love of God the Father for Jesus Christ. "And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one: I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me." (John 17:22,23)

 Submission to evil activities is not of God, whether it be man's laws or ideas, or those made by the church which oppose God's Word.  Submission to God's Word will "deliver us from evil":  "... I will walk within my house with a perfect heart. I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me." (Psalm 101:2,3) Participation in evil activities with our eyes, ears or any other part of the body is forbidden by God. If God says it's sin, it is evil, and we shouldn't let it become a part of our home or a wedge between our flesh (husbands and wives).  Write us if you have questions or read more on our web site at www.RestorationOfTheFamily.com.